Gay Getaways: Find Your Fall Getaway in a State with Marriage Equality

There’s something about a state with legal same-sex marriage that just makes me want to visit it and spend my money there. Now that Minnesota has joined the honor roll, it’s a fine time for Lavender to highlight all of the states where same-sex marriage is legal. You can plan a vacation or a wedding–your pick. At this time in history, the growing list of states includes: California, Connecticut, Delaware, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New York, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington, and Washington D.C. We highlighted nine of them here; go to the end of this article for links to the rest…and get getting-away!

California

By San Francisco Travel, www.sanfrancisco.travel

Always at the top of the list as one of the best cities to visit in the world, San Francisco is best known for its scenic beauty, cultural attractions, diverse communities, and world-class cuisine. Measuring 49 square miles, this walk-able city includes landmarks like the Golden Gate Bridge, cable cars, Alcatraz, and the largest Chinatown in the United States. A stroll of the city’s streets can lead from the Castro to North Beach to Fisherman’s Wharf, with intriguing neighborhoods to explore. Views of the Pacific Ocean and San Francisco Bay are often laced with fog, creating a romantic mood in this most European of American cities.

Fall Features

The Golden Gate Bridge, the most famous bridge in the world, manages to impress even the most experienced travelers with its stunning 1.7-mile span. The warm, clear days of fall are a perfect time to explore this world famous icon. Approximately 120,000 automobiles drive across it every day. A pedestrian walkway also allows the crossing on foot, and bikes are allowed on the western side. The Golden Gate Bridge is said to be one of the most photographed things on Earth and now features new 3,500-square-foot Bridge Pavilion to welcome visitors, house celebratory merchandise, and display interpretive exhibits. The iconic Round House has been converted to a space for visitor and education programs plus a “green screen” photo area where visitors can picture themselves in locations not accessible to the general public such as the top of the tower or climbing the cables. www.goldengatebridge.org

Inspired by the 75th anniversary of the Bay Bridge in 2011, The Bay Lights is a fine art piece installed on the western span and viewable from San Francisco and points north (but not by drivers crossing the bridge). Measuring 1.8-miles long and 500-feet high, the high-tech light sculpture design features 25,000 individually programmable, energy-efficient LED lights mounted on the bridge’s vertical cables. The Bay Lights will remain on the bridge for two years and is projected to add $97 million to the local economy. Installation of the lights began in October 2012 by internationally acclaimed artist Leo Villareal and was completed in March 2013. The world’s largest LED sculpture is on display daily from dusk to 2am daily. www.thebaylights.org

The Walt Disney Family Museum presents the exhibition Water to Paper, Paint to Sky: The Art of Tyrus Wong on through Feb. 3, 2014. The exhibition focuses on the life and work of Chinese-American artist Tyrus Wong—a celebrated painter, muralist, kite maker, lithographer, Hollywood sketch artist, calligrapher, ceramicist, and Disney Legend. This retrospective features more than 150 works including paintings, sculptures, works on paper, painted scarves, kites, and more. Although he never met Walt Disney, it was the ethereal beauty of Wong’s Eastern influenced paintings that caught Disney’s eye and became the inspiration for the animated feature Bambi, which changed the way animation art was presented. www.waltdisney.org 

GLBT Attractions

Often referred to as San Francisco’s “queer Smithsonian,” the GLBT Historical Society houses one of the world’s largest collections of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender historical materials. The society’s GLBT History Museum is the first full-scale, stand-alone museum of its kind in the United States. www.glbthistory.org

San Francisco’s beautiful City Hall is a landmark for the LGBT community.  It was here in 2004 that then-Mayor Gavin Newsom first legalized same-sex marriages.  Through the legal ups and downs, San Francisco has been a beloved location for weddings, commitment ceremonies and honeymoons ever since.  Come for the Beaux Arts architecture, to commit to your love, or to feel the glow as couples, gay and straight, take their wedding vows beneath the towering rotunda.  www.sfgov.org

The Castro, known at the “gay capital of the world,” offers exciting nightlife, pedestrian-friendly streets, Victorian homes, an array of trendy stores, and outdoor cafes for the “see and scene” crowd.  Take a trip back in gay history at the legendary Castro Theatre movie palace. This iconic spot houses smaller, independent flicks and is just as active now as it was in the 1920s.  www.castrotheatre.com

Connecticu

By the Connecticut Office of Tourism, www.ctvisit.com

Connecticut is a beautiful destination any time of the year, but in autumn, it’s the crown jewel of New England fall foliage. Its charming colonial towns and picturesque natural wonders are enhanced by fall’s colors, making for memorable experiences no matter what you have planned. Go antiquing, stroll through a seaside village, or sip wine overlooking one of our beautiful vineyards. Whether you’re looking to visit a local farm or a world-class casino, peruse classic art at a museum, or hike through the hills, fall is the perfect time to find inspiration and hidden gems in Connecticut.

Fall Features

The Connecticut Wine Trail is a group of 25 charming vineyards divided into western and eastern sections. Connecticut-produced wines have won hundreds of awards and medals and include varieties such Chardonnay, Cabernet Sauvignon, Pinot Noir, Merlot, and Cabernet Franc. Vineyards of note include Sunset Meadow Vineyards, which offers year-round wine tasting, and Haight-Brown Vineyard, where you can sample delicious artisan cheeses and other foods with your wine at HB Café. For those of you who prefer drinks of the hoppier variety, check out Thomas Hooker Brewery in Bloomfield, where you can tour the factory and sample 11 unique beers. www.ctwine.com

Don’t miss out on one of Connecticut’s most charming facets, our Cozy Bed & Breakfasts. You won’t find friendly service, comfort, charm, or home cooking of this caliber anywhere else! Visit lovely ends like Inn at Stonington, Old Mystic Inn or Cornucopia at Oldfield Bed and Breakfast. A true gem is Butternut Farm Bed & Breakfast, an adorable cottage-style inn replete with 18th century antiques, its grounds are home to dairy goats, pheasants, chickens, and housecats. Search for your B&B at www.ctvisit.com.

Connecticut is home to the nation’s leading maritime museum, Mystic Seaport. If you’re a history buff or just a casual admirer of Connecticut’s storied past, you’ll love the working preservation shipyard, huge photography collection, and brisk sea air at Mystic Seaport. There are events going on all season, like twilight cruises, beer tastings, and Halloween fun all through October. Afterwards, take a walk through the seaside town of Mystic, home to many cute cafes and shops. www.mysticseaport.org

GLBT Attractions

Connecticut has several community GLBT Centers, such as the Triangle Community Center and the New Haven Pride Center. Additionally, the Hartford Gay & Lesbian Health Collective is holding their annual OneBigEvent –Connecticut’s premier GLBT gala—this October!

Triangle Community Center: www.ctgay.org. New Haven Pride Center: www.nhglcc.org. Hartford Gay & Lesbian Health Collective: www.hglhc.org

Iowa

By Iowa Tourism, www.traveliowa.com

Iowa welcomes all travelers to enjoy our diverse destinations. The only state bordered by two National Scenic Byways, The Great River Road on the east and the Loess Hills National Scenic Byway on the west, means Iowa enchants visitors with autumn beauty from border to border. Take in the colors on a hike through a park, pick a pumpkin at your favorite patch, or share scary stories at an historic hotel. Just a short drive from Minneapolis, Iowa is a quick and affordable weekend destination.

Fall Features

The Villages of Van Buren are made up of a small cluster of villages in southeast Iowa. Drive through the countryside, picnic in a park, hike the trails, stroll through the shops, enjoy the historic architecture, paddle the Des Moines River Water Trail, or relax and take in the solitude. In the fall, Lacey Keosauqua State Park is especially picturesque. Bordering the great “horseshoe bend” of the Des Moines River, the park is one of the largest in the state and welcome visitors with the quiet beauty of the flowers, shrubs, timber and plenty of hiking trails. www.villagesofvanburen.com

Fall and ghosts go hand-in-hand. The Villisca Ax Murder House is the site of one of the grizzliest murders in American history. On July 10, 1912, someone bludgeoned to death Josiah and Sara Moore, their four children, and two children who were spending the night. To this day the murder is unsolved and the home has become a popular destination for lovers of the paranormal. The home has been restored to its 1912 appearance and is open to visitors, the bravest of whom may make reservations to spend the night in this home that some people say is haunted. www.villiscaiowa.com/history.php

Living Loess (rhymes with “bus”) includes nine artisan attractions located within 20 miles of each other nestled in the Loess Hills in Pottawattamie and Harrison counties in western Iowa. They include: Garden Grove Eatery, Gallaher Designs, Harrison County Historical Village and Welcome Center, Harvest Studio, Hitchcock Nature Center, Honey Creek Creamery, Loess Hills Lavender Farm, Loess Hills Woodworks, Sawmill Hollow Family Farm, and Sawmill Hollow which is the nation’s first aronia berry farm. The North American Aronia Berry Festival is the third weekend in September. Also in the area, Honey Creek Farms is situated in a renovated historic bunkhouse on a century farm where artisan cheese is crafted using fresh goat’s milk. www.livingloess.com

GLBT Attractions

The Hotel Blackhawk in Davenport, Iowa, is a beautifully restored historic property and the only in Iowa that is a member of IGLTA and TAG-approved. The property offers a special “Pride Package” that includes accommodations, bowling, spa credit, drink certificates and a bottle of champagne. The hotel sells about 100 Pride Packages to couples from the Minneapolis area each month.
www.hotelblackhawk.com/pride/

Maine

By the Maine Office of Tourism, www.visitmaine.com

Maine’s renowned National Parks (including Acadia), dramatic rocky shorelines, majestic mountains, and sandy beaches combine with picturesque towns, notable cuisine, and cultural attractions to offer a unique vacation.  With the crisp autumn air comes the chance to experience a quintessential fall weekend. Glorious colors are on display state-wide. From quiet coastal villages and lakeside golf courses to scenic mountain passes, Maine offers a variety of settings for nature’s brilliant show. Maine’s official Fall Foliage website has updates on leaf conditions, with recommended hikes and drives (www.maine.gov/doc/foliage/). Another fall favorite is heading to an orchard for apple picking and a glass of fresh-pressed cider.

Fall Features

Maine has inspired many of the nation’s most renowned artists from Frederic Edwin Church and Georgia O’Keeffe, to Winslow Homer and three generations of the Wyeth family.  Fall is perfect for exploring the 167-mile-long Maine Art Museum Trail that joins seven of the most outstanding museums including the Ogunquit Museum of American Art, the Bowdoin College Museum of Art (Brunswick), the Colby College Museum of Art with new Lunder Wing of American Masterworks (Waterville), and the Farnsworth Art Museum (Rockland).  And Wind\slow Homer’s famed Studio may now be visited on guided tour (Scarborough).  Details can be downloaded at www.VisitMaine.com.

Maine’s fall fairs have something for everyone. Local cuisine is sampled at Harvest Fest & Chowder Cook-off in Bethel (September), ChiliFest in Wells (September), Salmon Festival in Eastport (September), Common Ground Country Fair in Unity (September), Apple Festival in Rangeley Lakes (October), or Acadia’s Oktoberfest on Mount Desert Island (October).  Maine-made crafts are found at Country Roads Artists & Artisans Tour (September), Fall Festival Arts & Crafts Show in Camden (September), Caribou Fall Arts & Crafts Festival (October).  Maine history, music and culture are enjoyed at WoodenBoat Sail-In in Brooklin (September), Ogunquit’s Antique Show & Sale (September), Tea and Popovers at Acadia National Park (October), and Living History Days in Leonard’s Mill (October).

Over 400 treasure-filled antique shops dot Maine’s scenic highways and byways, making Maine a favorite destination for antique-seekers. The trails are loose centers or “loops” which feature a bounty of antique shops and dealers. Try more than one trail, combine parts of each, or explore beyond them.  U.S. Route 1 from the town of York (which is in itself an antique, as America’s oldest chartered city) through Ogunquit, Wells, and Kennebunkport to Arundel boasts the largest concentration of antique shops in Maine, within just 30 miles. For more information, visit the Maine Antique Dealers Association at www.maineantiques.org.

GLBT Attractions

Ogunquit on Maine’s southern coast is a friendly resort and artist colony that has been welcoming GLBT visitors for more than 100 years. Featuring three miles of white sandy beaches, its Fall offerings include beautiful foliage, lively dance clubs, shopping, antiquing, restaurants and lobster pounds, the 80-year-old Ogunquit Theater showing West Side Story (September) and The Buddy Holly Story (October), the Lobster Dash race (September), 1780 Heritage Museum, and famed Marginal Way—once an old Indian trail, now a meandering path hugging the ocean for 1.25 miles with some of the best views, flora and fauna along Maine’s coastline. www.gayogunquit.com

Mainestreet Ogunquit is one of New England’s largest gay entertainment complexes, and strives to be the standard in which others are judged. Besides being one of the region’s top dance, Mainestreet has featured a variety of shows from plays to drag to comedy. Favorite events are Top 40 dancing, karaoke, and killer women’s tea dances, and summer nights are best on our outdoor deck. Mainestreet remains open all year, and is referred to as “Ogunquit’s Party Central.” www.mainestreetogunquit.com

Highly popular with the gay community, Nosh Kitchen Bar is a casual, urban-style eatery located in Portland’s downtown Arts District along trendy Congress Street.  The restaurant offers a creative perspective on traditional deli techniques, based on the use of local, fresh, all-natural, and sustainable ingredients.  Favorite classic sandwiches receive an inventive twist with meats that are butchered, brined, and roasted “in house” and served on bread that is locally baked.  Open for lunch, dinner, and well into the night, Nosh is a particular favorite for cocktails and after local bar-hopping. www.noshkitchenbar.com

Maryland

By the Maryland Office of Tourism, www.visitmaryland.org

Maryland invites visitors to explore out-of-the-ordinary destinations that aren’t out of the way. Enjoy the excitement of a journey through the state’s five regions, traveling from serene oceanfront hideaways and Chesapeake Bay villages to wonderfully vibrant Main Streets and majestic mountainscapes. Be inspired by our beautiful countryside, set out on a leisurely drive along a network of Civil War Trails, tour local vineyards and craft breweries, or pause in Baltimore at the birthplace of “The Star-Spangled Banner.” Pick from an extensive schedule of cultural events and delight in our culinary specialties, including seafood fresh from the Chesapeake Bay.

Fall Features

Maryland’s largest city is Baltimore, known to many as Charm City. Fall brings cooler temperatures, but our attractions have turned up the heat with brand-new exhibits and events. A sampling includes: The National Aquarium in Baltimore made a big splash by opening a $12.5 million Blacktip Reef, filled with 20 sharks and Calypso, a 500+ pound green sea turtle. Mummies of the World, both human and animal, will appear at the Maryland Science Center beginning September 28, 2013. African-American’s role in pop culture and comic books is explored at Geppi’s Entertainment Museum through March 2014. www.baltimore.org/lgbt-baltimore

Adventure lovers and leaf-peepers head to Mountain Maryland in the fall. Activities such as hiking, mountain biking, driving gently winding scenic routes, ziplining, steam locomotive rides, and pedaling along the C&O Canal or the Great Allegheny Passage are just a few choices for visitors to the Deep Creek Lake and greater Cumberland areas. Lodging ranges from a lakeside casino hotel to cozy bed and breakfasts to vacation rental chalets that sleep up to 24 people. Seasonal events include a ten-day Autumn Glory Festival, dirt-track racing at The Rock, or two weekends of open houses at local artist studios.

Annapolis is known as the sailing capital of the world, in part for the two huge boat shows that fill the docks. Now in its 42nd year, the United States Powerboat Show, October 3-6, 2013, attracts over 40,000 attendees. The show, the nation’s oldest and largest in-water powerboat exhibition, will precede the United States Sailboat Show, October 10-14, 2013. But anytime of the year, visitors can visit the US Naval Academy to learn about plebe induction, Navy football, and naval heroes such as Admiral John Paul Jones. Don’t miss the museum which houses intricate ship models and trinkets carved by sailors from soup bones. www.visitannapolis.org

Minnesota

By Explore Minnesota Tourism, www.exploreminnesota.com

Fall is a peak time to explore Minnesota’s back roads, lakes and rivers, see the splendor of fall foliage, savor home-grown products at harvest time, sample local beer and wine, or attend a seasonal festival. A bounty of options will get you out in the country, whether you’re looking for a day trip getaway or romantic weekend for two. Or tour the Twin Cities for Broadway shows, world-class art museums, shopping and fine dining combined with the natural beauty of area lakes and Mississippi River to create an unparalleled metropolitan experience.

Fall Features

The North Shore of Lake Superior gives great color and lake views and is very popular with fall color fans. Along Highway 61 from Duluth to Grand Portage, visitors can find several state parks with wilderness rivers, waterfalls, hiking trails, and scenic overlooks. Yellow aspen and birch along shoreline, with scarlet maples inland, line the forest roads. This has been designated as an “All American Drive,” one of only 15 routes in the country so noted for their outstanding scenery. For an inland view, take Hwy. 1 through the colors of the Superior National Forest to Ely.

Charming rivertowns and wooded bluffs are found on the Great River Road (Highway 61) along the Mississippi between Red Wing and LaCrescent. Steep hillsides dressed in brilliant autumn hues of red, russet and gold. Several scenic overlooks, including those at Frontenac and Great River Bluffs state parks. Several roadside apple stands. This is a popular fall drive, so book your stay ahead of time. Red Wing is one of many towns along the Great River Road that offer an outstanding collection of architectural treasures and spectacular views of the Mississippi River from scenic bluffs. Take a tour of the town by trolley car, shop in the restored Red Wing Pottery Factory, and have lunch in the historic St. James Hotel.

Few major cities can boast such beautiful drives for Twin Cities Touring, especially pretty in the fall. Circle Lake of the Isles, Calhoun, Harriet and Nokomis lakes, and visit Minnehaha Falls. They’re all along the Grand Rounds Scenic Byway. The Lake Street and Ford Parkway bridges have great views of the Mississippi bordered by colorful, wooded hillsides. St. Paul’s tree-lined Summit Avenue is bordered by stately homes.

New Hampshire

By the State of New Hampshire Division of Travel and Tourism Development, www.visitnh.gov

From Hampton Beach to Lake Winnipesaukee and Mt. Monadnock to Mt. Washington, our great outdoors are the perfect place to getaway and relax this fall. Covered bridges, grand hotels, and quaint inns and B&Bs all make for the essential New Hampshire experience. Walk our main streets in places like Manchester, Portsmouth, and Keene.  Try tax-free shopping at our outlet malls, boutique shops, and marketplaces.  Enjoy incredible fall foliage on foot, in a car, overhead in a hot air balloon, or on one of our five scenic trains.  Farmers markets, pick your own, festivals, and fairs will fill your days and nights.  New Hampshire’s tourism website changes seasonally to include fall photography and website color-schemes at www.visitnh.gov. Starting in September, we include links on our home page to seasonal itineraries for fall, a link to our fall foliage tracker (an interactive map that allows you to see projected levels of peak by date and area of the state), as well as providing an option to sign up for text alerts with scenic drives.  We also do a weekly foliage report through the fall season and have an app in both the Google Play store and on iTunes called the NH Foliage Tracker App.

Fall Features

The 34.5 miles of Route 112 in the White Mountains, also known as the Kancamagus Highway between Lincoln and Conway, New Hampshire provides some of the most spectacular foliage in the country.  Scenic overlooks provide stunning views of reds, yellows, and oranges.  Just a short hike off the beaten path is a sparkling waterfall.  Enjoy views of the White Mountain National Forest and get back to nature.

The Keene Pumpkin Festival in October is known worldwide for its attempts to break the world record for most lit pumpkins in one place at the same time and has succeeded with eight world records.  The last time was in 2003 with 28,952 lit pumpkins.  Last year, the Property Brothers from HGTV filmed a program during the festival called “Pumpkin Wars” with one brother in New Hampshire and the other in Illinois to see which festival could get more lit pumpkins.  While in Keene at the festival, visitors can enjoy food, music, crafts, a costume parade, and pumpkin bowling.  www.pumpkinfestival2011.org

Enjoy the Deerfield Fair in Deerfield, New Hampshire, on September 26, 27, 28 & 29, 2013.  With 137 years of Agricultural Family Fun, this fair is New England’s Oldest “Family Fair.”  See all the classic fair events like tractor pulls, 4H competitions, horse pulls, sheep and cattle judging, along with entertainment ranging from magicians, puppet shows, and square dancers to a circus and the Miss Deerfield Fair Pageant! www.deerfieldfair.com 

GLBT Attractions

The Highlands Inn in Bethlehem, New Hampshire, has been called “one of the most romantic lesbian destinations on the planet” by Planet Out and has received the Pink Choice Award every year since 2007.  It is an 18-room women’s resort on a hundred private acres in New Hampshire’s White Mountains.  The property includes three buildings: the Main Inn with 12 rooms, the Farmhouse with 5 rooms, and the rustic Cottage. With large common areas, including a cozy living room with a cheery fireplace, and antiques and fresh flowers throughout, this lesbian-owned-and-run inn will remind you of a Victorian country home.
www.highlandsinn-nh.com

The Notchland Inn in Hart’s Location, New Hampshire, has been owned by Ed Butler and his husband, Les Schoof, for more than 20 years.  Surrounded by well-kept gardens dotted with purple lupine flowers and looking out on the green forested mountains, the inn provides its visitors an idyllic setting.  The Inn hosts weddings and honeymoons and even has an in-house Justice of the Peace. www.notchland.com

New York

By New York State Tourism, www.iloveny.com

New York State features 11 beautiful vacation regions. New York’s attractions span from landmarks such as Niagara Falls to the wine trails of Hudson Valley & Finger Lakes and treasures like the Baseball Hall of Fame in Cooperstown. In fall, visitors can engage in refreshing outdoor activities to admire the changing colors or they can stop by any of New York’s abundant farmers markets to feast on its fresh fruits and vegetables, unique apple ciders and award-winning wines. All throughout the season the Empire State has activities tailored for every visitor.

Fall Features

This fall season, visitors throughout New York can explore delicious food and beverage “trails” to discover what great new restaurant chefs have already found out: nothing beats hand-crafted, local food and beverages. The Culinary Institute of America Food Enthusiast Classes, in conjunction with Farm Fresh Tours, offers the opportunity to spend a day with celebrated chefs to learn how to turn fresh ingredients into mouthwatering dishes. Between September 15 and October 13, there will be classes on Spanish and Italian cooking; seafood; outdoor grilling, healthy cooking for one; chocolates and confections; and baking skills, from artisan breads to cookies. www.enthusiasts.ciachef.edu

Path Through History Weekends are designed to make it easy to experience the Empire State’s rich heritage and diverse attractions. Interactive science museums, homes of former presidents and artists, living history recreations, and former battlefields are among the cultural and historic sites offering discounted or free admission along with hands-on activities and special interest tours during these weekends. Many historic districts and parks also host festivals, often with live music, crafts and local foods. Whether you’re a sports enthusiast, a nature lover, curious about history or simply want to have fun, these weekends are not to be missed. www.paththroughhistory.ny.gov

Follow the Foliage. I LOVE NEW YORK’s weekly foliage reports begin September 11 and are updated weekly through early November at iloveny.com/fall. The site provides a detailed update of foliage conditions across New York State, including a map charting fall color progress, vantage points for viewing spectacular foliage, suggested autumn getaways and event listings. You may also hear highlights of the foliage report by dialing (800) CALL-NYS.

The Vineyard Express train, along the scenic Hudson River, stops at Poughkeepsie, with lunch at Vineyard Grill & Café and a hike along the Vineyard Walking Trail of Millbrook Vineyards & WineryWine Enthusiast magazine touted Millbrook Vineyards 2010 25th Anniversary Pinot Noir, which proved to be their top scorer at 89 out of 100 as well as it 2010 25th Anniversary Chardonnay rated at 88. www.millbrookwine.com

GLBT Attractions

First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt is considered a human rights pioneer, and her Val Kill cottage retreat is preserved in the Hudson Valley. This property that she shared with her friends — including a lesbian couple, according to the New York Times — is just down the way from the Franklin D. Roosevelt National Historic Site with its mansion, presidential library and museum. www.nps.gov/elro

Rochester’s ImageOut is upstate’s longest running lesbian/gay film and video festival. ImageOut presents GLBT arts and cultural experiences showcasing films, other creative works and artists to promote awareness, foster dialogue, and build a community. This year’s festival will be held from October 11-20, 2013. www.imageout.org

Plan your trip on lgbt.iloveny.com. “The LGBT community and New York State go way back. This is where the Stonewall rebellion gave birth to the modern LGBT civil rights movement, just as it was the birthplace of the women’s rights movement and a hub of the abolitionist movement. It’s where Harvey Milk went to college, and home to the nation’s oldest continually operating LGBT community center and longest continually published LGBT newspaper. We continued to make history when we became the largest state in the nation with legal marriage for all loving couples.”

Rhode Island

By the Rhode Island Tourism Division, www.visitrhodeisland.com

Autumn is famously when New England’s picturesque landscape explodes into a kaleidoscope of color, and Rhode Island is no exception. The fall foliage serves as the perfect backdrop to the state’s magnificent oceanfront vistas, whether dining al fresco in Providence or exploring the casual luxury of Newport.  Aside from the breathtaking scenery, Rhode Island’s buzzing nightlife, cultural offerings, and critically acclaimed gastronomy make the Ocean State a great getaway all year round.  And as proof that Little Rhody has always been one of the most gay-friendly states in the country, it recently became the tenth state to perform same-sex marriages.

Fall Features 

As the setting of the Gilded Age, Newport, Rhode Island, with its Newport Mansions, has long been emblematic of American luxury and elegance. For centuries, America’s elite escaped to Newport to get away from the hustle and bustle of urban life, entertain other well-to-do guests, and take in the beautiful waterfront vistas of the Ocean State. Today, the Newport Mansions are protected national treasures which reflect the apex of American prosperity during the industrial revolution and which still retain the same opulent feel. Events such as the Newport Wine & Food Festival, hosted annually, also showcase the magnificence of the Mansions and bring them to life. www.newportmansions.org

The “crown jewel of the Providence renaissance,” WaterFire is an award-winning installation by Barnaby Evans. Nestled along the banks of the rivers of downtown Providence, fire, music and art create an unforgettably soulful performance. Over eighty sparkling bonfires sit in braziers atop the three rivers of downtown Providence, while gondolas glide along the riverbanks and passengers take in the magical sights and sounds. Since its inception in 1997, WaterFire has drawn over ten million visitors to downtown Providence, revitalizing the city with its simple, inspiring beauty.  www.waterfire.org

Rhode Island School of Design is ranked among the world’s leading colleges of art and design and, as such, the RISD Museum of Art is also characterized as one of the nation’s finest small museums. Among its collections are nineteenth-century French Art, classical Greek, Roman and Etruscan art, Medieval and Renaissance art, and European decorative and Oriental art. RISD Museum also features nineteenth- and twentieth-century American paintings, modern Latin American art, contemporary art and major holdings in costumes and textiles.  www.risdmuseum.org 

GLBT Attractions

Founded by Roger Williams in 1636 on the tenets of tolerance, liberty and free will, Downtown Providence has no specific “gay neighborhood.” The GLBT community is inextricably woven into Rhode Island culture, and Providence is no exception – the city’s bustling downtown area boasts over two dozen gay bars, clubs, and other venues which are either gay-owned or gay-friendly and which are best explored on foot. www.goprovidence.com/visitors/gay-providence/ 

The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus (PGMC) aspires to deliver empowering messages of equality for all, to present unique & collaborative musical performances by one of the finest gay male choral ensembles in the country, and to be inspirational leaders of social change. Since its founding in 1995 with a small ad in a local GLBT paper, PGMC has become an award-winning, nationally acclaimed organization and one of the best musical experiences Little Rhody has to offer. www.provgmc.org 

Rhode Island’s GLBT Publications are not to be missed. Get is Rhode Island’s premiere gay magazine: www.Get-RI.comNewport Out is the definitive guide to Newport, RI for the GLBT community: www.NewportOut.com. Edge Providence provides a news and entertainment portal focused on the GLBT community in Providence, RI: www.EdgeProvidence.com 

“Gay Getaways” State Resources

California:
www.sanfrancisco.travel and www.sanfrancisco.travel/lgbt/

Connecticut:
www.ctvisit.com

Iowa:
www.traveliowa.com

Maine:
www.visitmaine.com

Maryland:
www.visitmaryland.org

Minnesota:
www.exploreminnesota.com

New Hampshire:
www.visitnh.gov

New York:
iloveny.com and lgbt.iloveny.com

Rhode Island:
www.visitrhodeisland.com

Additional States with Marriage Equality:

District of Columbia/Washington DC:
www.washington.org

Delaware:
www.visitdelaware.com

Massachusetts:
www.lgbtmassvacation.com

Vermont:
www.1-800-vermont.com

Washington:
www.experiencewa.com

Tourism 101: Gender, Sexuality, & Getaways

I love fall. It’s my favorite time of year. The colors, the temperatures, the smell of bonfires…I tend to travel and experience as much as I can during this short season. When I was thinking about what to include in this issue about Fall Getaways, the first thought that crossed my mind was marriage. Of course. Achieving the legalization of same-sex marriage in Minnesota is something that Lavender might never stop talking about. And, particularly with the overthrow of Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act on a national level, to talk about marriage across the United States is particularly relevant when looking at Fall Getaways. Am I suggesting you go get hitched in another state this fall? Not necessarily, but you have my blessings if you do. What I’m suggesting is that we show our support for these states that have given marriage equality to their citizens by making it a point to showcase them and spend our money there.

What power does this GLBT community wield in terms of whether or not this approach is influential? What power does this magazine in this state have? What power do offices of tourism have? I don’t have answers to these questions, but I can tell you that positive reinforcement (with money attached) never hurts. And, in my hopeful heart, if other states see what they’re missing out on, perhaps they’ll make it more important to work toward legalizing same-sex marriage on a state and national level as well.

As an editor, I have to start with a certain pecking order when approaching people, organizations, companies, or any entity, really. Considering this topic, the states legalized same-sex marriage so I needed to contact the states. Each state has an office of tourism and I gave them the rights of first refusal. If the officials in the office of tourism chose to pass, either I would not include an expanded version of their state’s fall getaway offerings or I would approach a city in the state for what they would recommend for GLBT travelers. This way, I knew that I would represent all the states in some fashion–a web address on our website, a city’s version of what GLBT travelers can plan to visit, or a state’s official recommendations for this community with the full awareness that the state was receiving this attention strictly because the state legalized same-sex marriage.

When I sent the questions for the gay getaways travel feature, I asked not only about fall attractions (since the issue is about Fall Getaways), but also about what would be of interest to the GLBT community, specifically. I gave the example of Harvey Milk areas of interest in San Francisco, the Beekman 1802 Mercantile owned by the Beekman Boys in New York, and almost listed Judy Garland’s house in Grand Rapids, but thought that was too easy and obvious (and a little cliché). I sent the questions and was planning to be enlightened by the experts as to what GLBT attractions might be found in their states.

Teach me! Enlighten me! Show me the way!

The responses were a little sparse.

There are various reasons as to why some of the responses were thin. I’m sure that timing had something to do with it as our relentless biweekly schedule means that I’m often asking for things on tight deadlines. Digging a little deeper, states like Massachusetts and New York have already developed extensive GLBT travel websites that feature attractions that are relevant to this community…and to boil things down to a short list might be moot. They’re rock stars in this realm. That’s giving a pretty hefty benefit of the doubt to the whole list of states, though, and I don’t think I’m going to be quite that charitable. I think they just didn’t have much to send me. But, instead of framing the lack of GLBT-specific attractions as a deterrent or detraction to visiting these fine states that have legalized same-sex marriage, I will highlight it as a growth opportunity.

I was a Women’s Studies Major in 1996, which became Women’s & Gender Studies by the time I graduated in 1999, and later became Women’s, Gender, & Sexuality Studies. People often asked (and still ask) why such a concentration of study existed. One of my responses was, because it has only just been written. If women had been part of the documentation of history, math, music, art, geography, science, as well as all the other industries and areas of life, perhaps we wouldn’t need a specific concentration of study to catch up on their involvement and achievements. Then, the response was, “but the women weren’t there.” It’s a somewhat valid point in that women were not allowed to do many things based on gender and sex discrimination, but they were always there, much like the GLBT community. Of course, looking at the addition of “Gender” and “Sexuality” to this one department of this one academic institution (my alma mater is Macalester College) does not indicate a worldwide movement or acceptance of women, gender, and sexuality, but it shows that there was a process of figuring out that something was missing and it was very important.

It is very important.

The tourism industry may be wise to follow suit and expand their own concentrations of study in terms of adding women, gender, and sexuality to how their locations are represented. We can joke about history being about “dead white guys,” but we don’t have to let that be the case, particularly when the “dead white guys” are put out there as being straight by default. I’m sure “the closet” as a part of the GLBT community’s past, present, and future reality has a very real effect on what can be known about locations and potential people of interest for tourists, but that can and should be less and less of a roadblock in rewriting history and pointedly deciding to re-present an underrepresented demographic of people. But, this current movement of rights being expanded to include the GLBT community means that history is happening now. It’s happening in their own states. Here is an opportunity for the tourism industry to not only work toward building a body of work that includes GLBT people and dates of the past, but the present as well. Start the process and it will continue to grow into what will draw the community to the borders even more than being a state that has legalized same-sex marriage.

There’s a lighthouse on the cover of this issue. A very real trend exists that magazines with people on them are more appealing than those without, but this lighthouse draws me into this issue for various reasons. This issue is about getaways and a lighthouse is something that is often seen “elsewhere,” particularly by those of us who are very landlocked. This particular lighthouse, the Wisconsin Point Light, is something that is seen by people who visit the North Shore of Minnesota as well as those who attend Duluth-Superior Pride, which is featured in this issue and happening over Labor Day Weekend. It is there as a safe beacon to sailors, but can also be seen as symbolizing a safe harbor for this community, as can the travel feature in this issue which lights the way to states that made marriage equality a reality for this community.

The other states that have yet to legalize same-sex marriage might not be influenced by this issue. What matters to me most is that you find something worthwhile in it, like I do. Just as I prefer to find services, restaurants, stores, and other products in the pages of this magazine because their presence tells me they value this community, I also prefer to visit places where the rights of this community are making very clear progress.

I want to go where history has been made and continues to be written.

With thanks,

Andy

 

From the Editor: A Day in the Life

Marriage equality has come to Minnesota. Hallelujah. Congratulations.

As the activity was happening at the State Capitol in May, it was apparent more marriage activity would be happening at the time our Senior Living Issue would be produced at the beginning of August. Instead of wondering how I was going to work the two topics into the same issue, I thought, “What tremendous timing.” I couldn’t have asked for a better juxtaposition.

Being a magazine, Lavender is both somewhat rigid and somewhat flexible in our content. We have the scheduled Editorial Calendar and some wiggle room for current events; this one would pair up the older GLBT community with the legalization of same-sex marriage in Minnesota, a pairing that could not have been more appropriate.

Lavender has at least two audiences on the macro level, one that is comprised of those who identify as part of the community represented by Lavender and one that is comprised of those who do not. This issue particularly serves a purpose to both audiences.

For the people who don’t identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and/or as allies but walk past Lavender every day on the stands, see it in coffee shops and businesses, or simply encounter Lavender materials being shared online, it’s a reminder that this community didn’t just up and start demanding rights in recent years. It’s not a new club. Senior citizens not only exist in the GLBT community, but they love each other and want to be married to each other. I mentioned last year how it seems to surprise people who are just learning about the GLBT community that there are older people in it. It’s not a new concept. It’s not a fad or a trend. Fighting for the rights of a group that has actually been around for all of humanity is not radical or unreasonable. Looking at the cover of this magazine, I hope they don’t just walk past Lavender, but that they notice the faces of same-sex marriage could be the faces of anyone in Minnesota, the United States, the world.

For those of us who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and/or as allies, it is an appropriate nod to just how far this community has come. When Pam Colby told me the name of her piece (page 32) in which she profiles three couples who will be marrying after years of partnership and love, I got chills: “I Never Thought I’d See the Day.” People who have been in this community–whether formally or informally–for years and years saw fast progress these past two years in both defeating the anti-marriage amendment as well as legalizing same-sex marriage in Minnesota (not to mention the Supreme Court striking down Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act). Not only have these couples seen the day, but so have their loved ones. This issue is a small tribute to their journey.

As July 31st turned into August 1st and same-sex marriage became legal, I went from function to function and saw so many joyous people. The Minneapolis City Hall was full of families and friends and couples and press and spectators and clergy and security and musicians and all sorts of people who wanted to share the occasion with each other. It ran smoothly and there were smiles everywhere. Multiple generations and relations, so much good will. I would live those hours again and again if I could. We were witnesses to history.

Honestly, I don’t know when we will see another day like August 1, 2013.

I am so grateful we saw it together.

With love,
Andy

 

REMINDER:

Please Make Your Nominations for the Lavender Community Awards (LCAs).

The Lavender Community Awards (LCAs) will be the updated version of the Lavender 100, last year’s tribute to our favorite places to go, things to do, foods to eat, places to be seen. We presented lists of finalists and winners as well as started a practice of giving attention to movers and shakers in the GLBT community, which was what I call a “keeper” of an issue; one to hang on to.  Instead of asking the community to vote for favorites this year, we’re going to focus on the people and ask for nominations as to who you think deserves recognition as members of the Lavender (GLBT and Allies) Community. We’ll have lovely photos of the winners, short biographies to let you know who they are and what they do, and all-around lovely representation of why this community is so unique and deserving of celebration.

Please go to lavendermagazi.wpengine.com/LCAnominations and nominate your picks for the Lavender Community Awards. Nominations will be accepted through Friday, August 23.

Then, look for the new issue featuring the winners of the Lavender Community Awards on October 3.